Confusing post. Your first paragraph talks about the problem occuring when the two fields are not the same lenghth. Your last paragraph says the problem occurs when the columns don't have the "same amount of fields". I'm going to assume that is a misprint, and that your problem is that the two columns are different lengths.
Given columnA varchar(10) and columnB varchar(20), any values in the two tables can be directly compared as long as the value in columnB is less than or equal to 10 characters. If it is 11 characters long, it can never match a value from columnA.
You should start by rewriting your statement like this to take advantage of any indexing on the columns.
select labor.SOP
from labor
left outer join torch on labor.SOP = torch.tSOP
where torch.tSOP is null
This will find EXACT MATCHES, based on length and characters, ignoring any trailing spaces (for char columns). If you want columnA varchar(10) against the first 10 characters of columnB varchar(20), use this:
select labor.SOP
from labor
left outer join torch on labor.SOP = left(torch.tSOP, 10)
where torch.tSOP is null
..but you will lose the benefits of any index on torch.tSOP.
Another general solution, not knowing the lengths of labor.SOP or torch.tSOP, is this:
select labor.SOP
from labor
left outer join torch on labor.SOP like 'torch.tSOP%'
where torch.tSOP is null
I hope one of these posts has been helpful, and if not then please post again and explain your problem more clearly.